Bad things happen for a reason.....

What are the chances of you striking lottery?

What are the chances of you scoring a one-on-one with the goalkeeper?

What are the odds of you landing the job amongst the rest of the interviewees?

How unlucky would you be when you open up the chocolate wrap and found maggots in it?

How much of fate would be responsible for you to see a stranger 3 times in a day at 3 different occasions?



Just what am I talking about?
Mathematics, YES, I am talking about mathematics...and chances.......



We humans have 2 ways of looking at things.....

Either through statistics and science, or, through luck and chances.....


Statistically, people who believe in luck and people who choose to take their chances against odds are impractical.....and the chances are that practical people would normally lose it than risk it to win big......


Just recently, I had the privilege to catch a few shows here and there on TV due to the nature of my shift duty timings...and I managed to catch one or two repeat telecast episodes of the show “变奏曲” or “Rhythm of life” during one of the weekends.....


The show bears the interesting concept of save and load in the cyber world, where the male lead gets to travel back in time to that one particular incident and make crucial decisions which subsequently changes the future fate of his love ones.....


The male lead couldn’t accept the fact that his indirectly role in the death of one of his close friends would spark the negative effects of his other friends.....and was one day, given a chance to change things again.....


He went back in time, to save his friend in the nick of time, but found himself sacrificing the love of his life.....


He took his chances, and despite the fact he knew what would happen in the future...there were still too many things beyond his control.....



And that’s the fact of life.....

There are so many things beyond our control that we’re only left with statistics and odds and faiths to rely on.....



However, we did come up with ways to defy odds based on statistics.....


Things like betting on more than one option to increase your odds in winning...or doing your research of the company before your interview... or having more practice sessions on your composure and finishing to beat the goalkeeper.....


But chances are that you’d still lose all of you money, get rejected by your potential employer and fail to score.....due to some other factors beyond your control.....



And I guess all these apply to relationships as well......


There’s been this saying that there’s one for everyone somewhere out there.....


Personally, I think that’s a perfect excuse for lazy people to sit and wait for things to happen.....

But let’s just say that that’s part of the things beyond our control......



You may have found the one for you, but you might not be the one for him/her.....


And things like your looks, your upbringing, your intelligence, your taste and your job takes major roles too.....

You could have likings in someone’s characters, but you may be looking for someone with better looks, or higher intelligence.....

Then of course, we are normally more attracted to certain factors and eventually it overcomes the other not so satisfactory qualities of that person....and we adapt to it....get used to it....and finally be contented with it......

Of course, this cycle of adaptation would occur multiple times, and eventually, we would all have taken our chances with one or another, and whether we regret those decisions or not?.....I guess by that time, it’d be all too late.....




I guess this is a rather random one of mine.....


All I’m left to say is that I hope none of you would have regrets in what you do, whichever way you choose to decide upon, on statistics or on odds.....



Sometimes taking a leap of fate might turn out to be good.....

And sometimes, playing it safe with statistics won’t be that bad either.....




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Judge me, but judge us not

Have you ever known someone that you were dead sure that they would become a wonderful person, but as the years go by, and you start to realise they just weren’t turning out to who you thought they could be?

During my not-so-long time on the face of Earth, I have already seen quite a few......

Doesn’t that make you rethink on how you would come to any conclusions on anything?

I am not saying that one should judge a person, that’s just wrong to SAY.....

But really, everyone needs to have an impression on everyone else and in fact almost everyone’s doing it...

He/she doesn’t have to tell us, they would seldom want to, and neither have we the rights to know, but through observations, we need to have a credible and accurate conclusion on them, in order to act and react accordingly...

That is why not all of the people around us, that made contact with us becomes our friends...and not all friends remained as friends.....

That is also why and how we put high hopes in others and lesser hopes in some...

So who are we not to judge? .....We all judge, and the action of telling someone to not judge someone else, is in actual fact, an action of judging......

Since judging is inevitable, let us all please judge with a conscious, fair and unprejudiced mind.....

Things happen, but they don’t just happen without reasons, it could be because he/she had a bad day, yes, he/she may have to learn a better way of handling his/her anger, but you too, maybe the next time you feel like cursing someone for making you pissed off, try placing yourself in his/her shoe......

People handle things differently, especially when it comes to emotions, some would choose to head out and spend, and some would take the gourmet /glutton path, while others might choose violence......

Personally, I would choose to sleep it off, well talking about it with someone else works for me too.....But at the end of the day, when I start to feel better, I would try to think of a reason on why things happened, and not waste time whining about the fact that it did......the more negativity and less understanding you put into certain bad things, you’re just making it happen again, trust me on that...

And this is where benefit of the doubt comes in......’cause we may never get to really find out why someone would do this or that, but c’mon let’s all give them the benefit of doubt shall we?

“I believe in humans, I would rather think and be good and get myself disappointed again and again, time after time...”

That’s just a quote from somewhere, but it works for me, and this following quote works in conjunction of it.....

“A good person falls seven times, a wicked person only once”

Since X’mas is over, and 2009’s coming, I wish all of my friends and family members to have a MUCH MUCH better year in 2009 and for a few, a better Christmas and Silent night, and to some other few, I hope you guys get your future directions right soon....

Yours sincerely,

XzR

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